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The Wound of Unknowing and What to Do About It

Unknowing Wound“Nothing hurts worse than Not Being Known,” said a septuagenarian to a group of 5000 at a recent women’s conference.

As soon as the words were out of her mouth, I felt the weight of their truth.  That Wound of Unknowing – I’ve lived with it.  After all, I’ve walked the lonely road of widowhood for over a year, and felt the loss of that Other who knew me so well.  Yet I felt that wound as a child, and maybe you have, too…

The pain of not being known afflicts women and men, married, single, divorced, or widowed. Young people and old people bear what I call the Wound of Unknowing. As I see it, this wound derives from different paths… [Read more…]

A Crazy Dream, a Grieving Widow, and a Little Lesson about Change for You

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Last night, I had a crazy dream. But NOT “about a chick in a black bikini”.   Remember “Chicka-boom, chicka-boom, chicka-boom-boom-boom”?

Anyway, my dream was about the man who had exited my life via cardiac arrest last winter. Since then, I’ve been surfing the waves of grief, learning to navigate its emotional highs and lows.

Let’s get to the Crazy Dream:

In the middle of Dreamland, [Read more…]

The REAL Enemy of Your Relationship!

Relationahip EnemyNobody warns you about it when you make that big commitment.  And years later – when the proverbial  you-know-what hits the fan – mum’s the word.

Friends.  Family.  Mentors.  They all dropped the ball on this one.  Meanwhile your Real Relationship Enemy lurks, silently weaving it’s dark disaster.

But it’s not what you might think …. [Read more…]

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