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Relationship Footprints: What Story Do Your Choices Tell?

Choices are like footprints

Choices are like footprints

On a recent vacation, I spotted these footprints in the sand along the coast of Lake Michigan.  With no other people in sight, I still knew something about the people who left the footprints.  They were heading north.  Under the overcast sky, I had an epiphany… our choices are like footprints in the sand – they tell a story.   And with each choice we make, we move closer to a happier or less happy ending. [Read more…]

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When is Enough Enough?

 

Many of us are plagued by a common condition: we rarely appreciate who we are and what we have.  And so begins our endless pursuit of you-fill-in-the-blank, fueled by a nagging voice incessantly whining that we are not enough.  Sound familiar? You’re not alone, since humans have had this struggle for millennia.

How much was enough in the beginning?

In the story of the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve didn’t seem to fully appreciate who they were or what they had – otherwise  they wouldn’t have grasped that which was forbidden.   The idea that they were not enough came from a source outside of themselves.  They believed what they were told, and their quest for enough cost the duo their prime real estate and easy life. [Read more…]

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Change

In 2011, I read many books about managing finances and investments.  That’s when I discovered this observation attributed to Warren Buffet: the chains of habit are never experienced as heavy until we try to change. Suddenly I had a metaphor to describe why change is so difficult.  Entrenched patterns of living rarely feel burdensome until we attempt to change them – changing lifetime patterns may feel like breaking impossible chains.  Yet change is possible – and this is what I think we forget.  With each healthier choice we make, chains of habit begin to crack and lasting change is reinforced.  The trick is to keep making healthier choices, and to find the support we need to sustain the change.  Providing that support is one thing I love about my role as a therapist. 

 Do you agree with Buffet’s observation?  What helps you to make healthier choices? Where might you find the support to change a habit?

 

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