5 Super Simple Ways to Spring Clean Your Relationship

//5 Super Simple Ways to Spring Clean Your Relationship

5 Super Simple Ways to Spring Clean Your Relationship

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On a rainy day with temperatures falling, it’s hard to believe that spring has finally arrived.  Yet evidence of new life is all around me.  Cherry blossoms, hyacinths, and daffodils dapple my yard with pops of color, as a freeze warning pings on my Android.

I’m thinking about protecting plants, cleaning and prepping flower beds, and starting a long overdue house cleaning.  Things inside and out became cluttered over a long cold winter.

Cluttered.  That’s how relationships can feel at times.  All those problems we keep avoiding create a mountain of yuck that dulls the original shine and sparkle we once experienced.

So why not channel a bit of that spring cleaning energy into something really important?  I think it’s time to recapture the sparkle and shine in our relationships.

Here are 5 super simple ways to direct our cleaning efforts:

Purge what doesn’t work.

At my house, we know it’s time to pick up sticks, fallen limbs, and yard waste outside.  Meanwhile we’re purging old clothes and tchotchkes that no longer serve a valuable purpose inside.

Relationships can be cluttered with many things that serve no valuable purpose in a lasting connection: nagging, meaningless arguments, emotional or physical disconnect, avoidance, or unhealthy attachments people other than partners.

What needs to be purged from your relationship? A personal habit? A joint interaction style?

Try something new together.

Once we tidy up inside and outside our homes, we find space and room to plant something new.  Or perhaps we’ll tweak the décor in a room to breathe new life into an old space.

Relationships need a similar “breath of fresh air” to relieve the staleness of “same old same old”.  When you and your partner try something new, your connection is strengthened. You step into the unknown as a team – much like you did when you were just starting out.

What new thing can you try with your partner? Dancing or cooking lessons? A day trip to a new locale? Watching a new-to-you series together on Netflix?

Plan to have fun together each week.

Spring is the time when some of us experiment.  We plant colorful flowers or install whimsical yard art outside.  We set out “springy” décor inside.  Just for the fun of it.

Relationships need the same spirit of fun and play.  It’s part of what drew us together in the first place. Remember?

What fun can you plan with your partner?  It could be something new as above, or something old that you haven’t done in ages.  What is fun to you and your partner is as unique as your relationship. Make play a regular commitment.

Begin and end each day gratitude.

There was a time when I didn’t appreciate my yard: we had moss and weeds where our neighbors had a pristine carpet of green – with nary a weed in sight.  But a wise master gardener taught me to accept and work with what I have – to be grateful for a naturalized lot.  Now I see beauty outside every day.

Relationships thrive when gratitude is present daily.  Gratitude pumps light and positivity into dark and negative places.

Start a daily practice of creating a gratitude list.  Each day, share with each other and record something about the other for which you are grateful.

Tune in to each other.

To get anything done outside or inside, this time of year I have to tune in to what is in front of me.  For long cold months, I’ve ignored branches that are scattered all over my yard.  I’ve become immune to piles of stuff inside.

Relationships also thrive on the ability of each partner to tune in to the other.  When we sense that our partners are fully present, we feel heard, valued, and connected. When we are ignored or dismissed, we feel unheard, devalued, and disconnected.

Practice of paying attention (tuning in) to your partner when they speak.  Let this more present kind of communication demonstrate how you each value the other.

Bonus: Simple does not mean easy.

Okay, that’s it.  Five super simple ideas to breathe new life into your current relationship.   Note that simple does not mean easy to execute.   But simple ideas are often easiest to remember: Purge, New, Fun, Gratitude, Tune in.

And if we remember those 5 words, we may have a chance of bringing some sparkle and shine back into our relationships.

So now, over to you.  What are your ideas of spring cleaning a relationship?  Post them in the comments section below.






By |2017-12-17T15:05:28+00:00April 16th, 2014|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , |15 Comments

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  1. Alexandra McAllister April 16, 2014 at 6:26 pm - Reply

    These are all wonderful ideas, especially trying something new together. Couples do get stuck in a routine at times, and re-discovering one another is a good thing. Lovely article! Great graphic as well! 😉

  2. Nate April 16, 2014 at 7:10 pm - Reply

    Spring cleaning into a relationship is an awesome way to revitalize. Between you and your SO, should be agreed upon and also both of you will have to agree and want to do the change. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Kungphoo April 16, 2014 at 8:39 pm - Reply

    Great advice! It’s always good to do some spring cleaning in your relationship. It’s important to let go of things that have happened in the past and move forward to exciting things for the future.

  4. Roz April 16, 2014 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Love this analogy of spring cleaning and relationship building. All relationships, in order for growth need tending. I just made a change in an activity we do monthly and made it 2x a month. I had a few reasons and you helped me see the best one. Instead of going away for 2 nights, we can go away 2x for 1 night each, giving us vacay time to tune in.

  5. Mike April 17, 2014 at 2:50 pm - Reply

    Great post Gina!

    I think being grateful everyday is an awesome tip and reminder. Sometimes its real easy to get swept away in the hustlee and forget to be thankful. Awakening each day and closing each with a thankful attitude really puts things in perspective (plus it makes us more pleasant as people 🙂 )

  6. Sharon O'Day April 17, 2014 at 5:07 pm - Reply

    Terrific parallels, Gina, between the need to Spring clean the physical (house and garden) as well as the relational (your couple). Relationships are living, growing things … although it’s easy to see them as static. So the question is, in which direction do you want yours to grow? Love the simple, straightforward actions … 😉

  7. Yvonne Brown April 17, 2014 at 9:24 pm - Reply

    I never looked at spring cleaning in this way, but it makes sense!

  8. Marielle Altenor April 18, 2014 at 6:30 pm - Reply

    This a really great article! My relationship could use a bit of a spruce cleaning! Not to say that I’m not happy but we need to start having one day out with just us! With everything happening its really easy to put “fun” in the back burner!

  9. Norma Doiron @Savvy Biz Solutions April 18, 2014 at 9:20 pm - Reply

    We had to get some new ideas of doing things together when we became empty nesters. We had never just been a couple so it was quite the adjustment. Now we’re having fun! 🙂

  10. Ashley April 18, 2014 at 11:53 pm - Reply

    These are all wonderful tips. I love the idea of a gratitude list, it’s simple but it will foster more positive emotions. Love it!

  11. Heather Cameron April 21, 2014 at 4:01 am - Reply

    Great idea and a refreshing out look on make a relationship better.

  12. Tina April 21, 2014 at 12:59 pm - Reply

    These are GREAT ideas. Every relationship needs a little bit of spring cleaning!! I can understand why the romance would be uplifted if these tips were followed!!

  13. Robin April 21, 2014 at 2:08 pm - Reply

    Great post, Gina! I hadn’t thought about the correlation between spring cleaning a house and a relationship. Choosing to be grateful each and every day is an great tip and reminder. It is too easy to get caught up in the busyness of our every day lives.

  14. Katrina April 21, 2014 at 3:59 pm - Reply

    The maintenance of a relationship is a daily activity. Thank you for the comparison and the insight on how to keep a relationship together.

  15. Cheryl April 22, 2014 at 3:33 am - Reply

    These are wonderful tips. Yes, refreshing a relationship is a wonderful idea.

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