Time to Fix Your Most Important Relationship!
The time has come to to take action! A serious relationship needs your immediate attention. A connection is gasping for air... A marriage with poor communication or disconnection? The bad relationship you have with your teen? A hit or miss relationship with the Divine Being? No. No. And a resounding No! Why these relationships [...]
New Year’s Resolutions: The Problem & How to Fix It
We raised the sparkly toast, shared a special kiss, and watched the Shiny Ball drop. Another New Year arrived, scattering our lives with hastily conceived New Year’s Resolutions: To lose 10 pounds. To save money. To be a better human Each is a worthy goal, deserving of serious effort. We’ve obtained steps to shed the weight, save the [...]
The Wound of Unknowing and What to Do About It
“Nothing hurts worse than Not Being Known,” said a septuagenarian to a group of 5000 at a recent women’s conference. As soon as the words were out of her mouth, I felt the weight of their truth. That Wound of Unknowing – I’ve lived with it. After all, I’ve walked the lonely road of widowhood for [...]
A Crazy Dream, a Grieving Widow, and a Little Lesson about Change for You
Last night, I had a crazy dream. But NOT “about a chick in a black bikini”. Remember “Chicka-boom, chicka-boom, chicka-boom-boom-boom”? Anyway, my dream was about the man who had exited my life via cardiac arrest last winter. Since then, I’ve been surfing the waves of grief, learning to navigate its emotional highs and lows. Let’s [...]
The REAL Enemy of Your Relationship!
Nobody warns you about it when you make that big commitment. And years later – when the proverbial you-know-what hits the fan – mum’s the word. Friends. Family. Mentors. They all dropped the ball on this one. Meanwhile your Real Relationship Enemy lurks, silently weaving it’s dark disaster. But it’s not what you might think …. [...]
What My Husband’s Death Taught Me about Marriage
After 27 years of marriage, my husband died unexpectedly while lifting weights on a Friday morning. The moment I found his unresponsive body, chaos entered my life. At the hospital, my son and I sat in a private waiting room. When three medical professionals entered, I knew he was gone. But since he died, I’ve learned [...]
Forget New Year’s Resolutions: An Exit Interview for the Old Year
Here we are at another milestone. Fireworks at the ready. Party clothes on. Champagne corked. Eyes glued to the big ball. Helpful people have already inquired about our New Year’s Resolutions: “Do you have any? What are they?” Blah, blah, blah. In my humble opinion, these are the wrong questions. Before we think up any resolutions (or [...]
How to Not Only Survive, but Thrive with Your Dysfunctional Family THIS Holiday!
Here we are, one week from Christmas. And you and I are in the same boat – anticipating another dysfunctional family holiday. By this point, we sing Christmas songs in our sleep. Sit frustrated in unexplained traffic jams, after hours of holiday shopping. Or perhaps we overdose on sappy holiday movies from the Hallmark Channel. You know what [...]
Vacation Wisdom for Emotional Storms
I approached this year’s vacation much like I prepared for my wedding – with visions of undiluted happiness spinning in my head. But after arriving at midnight, I woke up in Vacation Heaven to raging winds, and a stormy sea. Lake Michigan was unsafe for small vessels and open water swimming. And strangely, it reminded me [...]
Marriage Advice for Wedded Bliss
Two weeks ago we attended the wedding of my niece. The ceremony and reception were exquisite - just as she is. Watching the ceremony, I started thinking about all the planning and effort that culminates in a wedding. Then I thought about all the places we get stuck when the honeymoon is over. What would keep [...]
Betrayed? What to Do Instead of Revenge Cheat
Here's a teaser from my latest article on YourTango.com: In a committed relationship, when your man cheats, you want to kick him where it hurts. An eye for an eye; a tooth for a tooth. The thought of inflicting the same kind of cheating pain tastes like the sweetest revenge. You want to even the score by making [...]