7 Communication Potholes that Can Seriously Damage Your Relationship

By |February 17th, 2014|

A pothole can be your car’s worst enemy (Tuffy Tire & Auto Service).       What Can Be Your Relationships Worst Enemy? It just may be your habitual communication style… Some of us may be traveling a rough relationship road today – because of something we said or didn’t say. Tactless communication purposely or carelessly created [...]

Can Emotional Infidelity Ever Be Worse Than An Affair?

By |November 26th, 2013|

Think the answer is a no-brainer? We all know how physical hookups can devastate a committed relationship. But if we ignore the very real wedge created by emotional infidelity, we may eventually a discover a gaping hole in our relationship. In this article now on Huffington Post, a colleague and I explore the toll emotional infidelity [...]

Relationship Footprints: What Story Do Your Choices Tell?

By |August 28th, 2013|

Choices are like footprints On a recent vacation, I spotted these footprints in the sand along the coast of Lake Michigan.  With no other people in sight, I still knew something about the people who left the footprints.  They were heading north.  Under the overcast sky, I had an epiphany… our choices are like [...]

Lessons Learned on Vacation: How You Can Improve Your Relationship

By |August 20th, 2013|

Vacation can be a time for reflection. I used time away from my husband to consider behaviors and choices that make for healthy relationships. Read my article on, Lessons in Healthy Relationships from a Solo Vacation, to discover how you can improve your own relationship ... with or without a vacation! Wishing you the best, [...]

A Holiday Tip: How to Handle Frustration

By |December 4th, 2012|

Inevitably, as the winter holidays approach, many of us will experience repeated moments of frustration. Our problem is that the change we long for eludes our grasp once again. Sometimes a simple question illuminates possible steps we can take TODAY towards the change we desire.

What Can Veterans Day Teach Us About Relationships?

By |November 11th, 2012|

Veterans Day traces its origin to the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month in 1918.  At this hour, the Allies and Germany agreed to a cease fire on the Western Front.  Although some fighting continued in other areas, it became the date that  the “war to end all wars” ended. Celebrated as [...]

The Paralyzing Power of Rigid Expectations

By |November 5th, 2012|

Election 2012 is upon us, and political pundits from both sides  are issuing dire predictions if the other party wins. From Facebook to Twitter, TV to radio, lunch rooms to dinner tables, we learn that half of us will be desperately unhappy when election results are tallied.  Why?  Perhaps because when our expectations are set in stone, our [...]

Anxiety is a Mental Storm with False Forecasts

By |October 29th, 2012|

Similar to hurricanes in the real world, anxiety creates a mental storm from which escape is elusive. The mental storm gains power as erroneous weather reports forecast warnings at high volume about our safety and security. Anxiety huffs and puffs and we experience its effects in body, mind, and behavior. So the forecasts of our mental storm feel truly real in our experience...