Marriage Advice for Wedded Bliss

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Marriage Advice for Wedded Bliss

Two weeks ago we attended the wedding of my niece.  The ceremony and reception were exquisite – just as she is.  Watching the ceremony, I started thinking about all the planning and effort that culminates in a wedding.  Then I thought about all the places we get stuck when the honeymoon is over.

What would keep us from repeating the mistakes that suck the life out of a relationship?  What do I wish I’d known when I was a blushing newlywed? I decided to answer my own questions in the form of an open letter to my niece.

Here’s a teaser of that letter from

My Beautiful Niece,

By now you’ve been married for almost two weeks and I thought I’d drop a line to offer you the kind of marriage advice that no one offered me. If you follow it, you’ll have a good shot at doing what your parents and mine couldn’t, and what your uncle and I work at daily: succeeding in your marriage. We’ve learned some priceless lessons by trial and error.

Lesson 1: Place a strong boundary around your relationship.

I noticed that you tuned out of Facebook during your honeymoon. Way to go! That was your time with your husband; you did not need to share it with friends and family. Just as you protected that experience from outside interference, so you will need to protect your relationship from the tentacles of your families and friends.

Everyone on both sides will have opinions and specific marriage advice about who should be doing what. We love you both, but our opinions are not your golden truths. So take them with a grain of salt. Set a firm boundary around your marriage, and let no one outside that boundary dictate your actions within it. From inside your relationship boundary, work as …

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By |2017-12-17T15:17:50+00:00July 28th, 2014|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , |6 Comments

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  1. Francisco July 29, 2014 at 2:15 am - Reply

    My recepi for long mariage just love and respect each other when times go bad just remember the good ones. Nothing wrong with faiths disagreements and bad times just don’t quit it will make you guys stronger. Have faith in God when things don’t go your way is for a reason that we can’t understand right away. Just belief God have a propose for every thing. Eveng when we can’t understand. Just remember for good and bad times, not always will be roses. Just need to have strong head with God in the middle.

    Love tio Francisco

  2. Meryl Hershey Beck August 6, 2014 at 7:17 pm - Reply

    Great marriage and relationship advice. Marriage is a sacred place that should be shared and protected from outside influences. Make time every day to just listen and share even the smallest of moments. Nurture your relationship ,never letting to much time pass. Not every day will be easy but if you build it together you will survive those challenging times. Love, honor, trust always. Great post and you have a beautiful Niece.

  3. Roz August 7, 2014 at 1:36 am - Reply

    Look forward to your blogs. They offer such realistic advice. Beautiful neice. We all want the best for newlyweds and loved ones. Great idea to write a letter.

  4. Tina August 7, 2014 at 12:34 pm - Reply

    This is wonderful!! I wish every bride had you as an aunt to offer this advice! Brides take a lot of time and effort into planning one day of their life, and then they forget that it’s “forever” after that where they will need to work. Actually, a wedding day, when a person is asked the most important question of their life (do you take this man/woman for the rest of your life) is being asked at the most emotional, most stressful and most impractical time ever. Marriage is a strong commitment and I commend you for your insight and can hardly wait to read more of your blogs.

  5. Goody Bag Mall August 7, 2014 at 3:37 pm - Reply

    The is the best advice I have seen anyone offer. I hope she takes it into consideration.

  6. Great advice, Gina. Relationships get what you put in, and it’s an investment that produces much. It’s what happens after the honeymoon that counts… Great post.

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